Monday, January 15, 2018

 


Three Practices for the New Year: Remembering, Prayer and Love

The start of a New Year always draws us into a time of remembering the year that has just passed.  We consider the goals we set and if we accomplished them during the year.  We think about people we love, friends and family that we may have lost during the year and we remember our many shared experiences.  Some of us who are writers may look back at the blog posts we wrote during the year, and we remember the feelings we had and our circumstances when we wrote them. 

Memories are released and we reflect on them and find insights and new awareness of ourselves and how we wish to live.  It is good to remember; to bring back for review various times in our lives.  I was on a radio show interview recently and the host and I talked about shared memories of our careers and how each chapter of our lives seems to have built on the others, creating steps that carried us to our current roles.  What we remember is what we learn from and that is a gift worth honoring.

Prayer is another healthy and healing practice for our lives; it comforts us in times of challenge when we pray for strength and courage; and it lightens our heart in times of joy when our prayers are prayers of gratitude. But regardless of the circumstances, prayer is a good companion to have with us on the journey of life. It is food for the soul, it nourishes our spirit and encourages our hearts to connect, to reach out to help others, and to bring peaceful energy to the world. A prayer does not have to be a religious act it can be words or thoughts from your inner being that are expressed.

At the heart of our lives is the practice of love, the central core element that makes us human. Love is what saves us from our harsher instincts; love draws strangers together in times of common dangers, as we witnessed so often in 2017, to serve, protect, and comfort one another.  We are inspired by love, especially selfless love, and the examples we witness call us to our best selves. 
I wish these three practices for you as you move forward into your personal future, and into our shared future as members of the global community.  We live in a world that keeps getting smaller and we are connected through a web of life that joins our humanity.  We need remembering, prayer or casting our intentions, and love to sustain us, nourish us, and to wind around us as an invisible cloak that circles the earth and each of us upon it.  Happy New Year!





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Life-Cycle Ceremonies: A Handbook for Your Whole Life 



How do you commemorate momentous events? Memorialize people who have shaped you?
Draw support from those you hold dear? This primer offers methods for honoring the special occasions in your life with humor and grace. Its ceremonies help ground each day in the wholeness that supports our entire lives. Each ceremony has been vetted by a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant® affiliated with the Celebrant Foundation and Institute, which offers training and support for celebrants worldwide. Visit us at www.celebrantInstitute.org.











Elaine Voci is a life coach in private practice in Carmel, IN and a graduate of the Celebrant  Foundation & Institute.   Elaine is the Editor of the Celebrant Blog for the Celebrant Foundation & Institute.

Elaine Voci 's NEW BOOK: Resilience Art


"Dr. Elaine Voci's books aren't just books. They are emotional experiences and spiritual journeys. Resilience

Art provides readers with Elaine's personal and professional life lessons combined with modern research to inspire and inform them that grief is highly individual, and that resilience is a part of their natural birthright. They are shown how to use the coloring book and incorporate intentional rituals and a selection of their favorite music to help them grow, and to integrate their loss. Locally, Elaine offers Resilience Art Workshops to accompany her unique book, adding value to and for readers beyond the boo"k. - Erin Albert, MBA, PharmD, JD, PAHM is an author of 13 books, entrepreneur, pharmacist, podcaster, women’s advocate, and preceptor in the Indianapolis, IN area.






Coloring Book Using Ritual and Music to Help You Grow is published by Mascot Books. During December, you can pre-order a copy and save 20%! The discount code is "coloring book To order go here: https://
"Dr. Elaine Voci's books aren't just books. They are emotional experiences and spiritual journeys. Resilience Art provides readers with Elaine's personal and professional life lessons combined with modern research to inspire and inform them that grief is highly individual, and that resilience is a part of their natural birthright. They are shown how to use the coloring book and incorporate intentional rituals and a selection of their favorite music to help them grow, and to integrate their loss. Locally, Elaine offers Resilience Art Workshops to accompany her unique book, adding value to and for readers beyond the boo"k.
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Thursday, December 28, 2017

About the Ceremony by Maria Pereyra


I have been given the privilege to write a few words that may shed a light for fellow Celebrants and sincerely hope that what I share may be of use and bring a smile to your heart. Please feel free to contact me! We are not alone.
About the ceremony
There are three things that I consider key for a ceremony: What tone does the couple wish for their ceremony, what are their colors and whether they want to include religious elements. The tone is for the words I use and how I say them, the colors to make sure that what I wear blends with their choices and the religious elements to help them include special readings and traditions.
Being raised Catholic it comes easy to me to include religiosity, be it, Catholic, Jewish or any religion that calls for a sacred moment. Though as Celebrants we are told that our ceremonies will be mostly non-denominational, in my case, I have married many couples in which I incorporate religion, making sure of course, not to cross boundaries.
When I am asked to help with a bilingual ceremony, my aim is to not translate word by word but to let things flow, so that guests enjoy all words be it in their language or not. For example, I suggest that the couple exchange their rings in the language they use for each other.  I add Spanish endearing words here and there such as: “señorita”, ”Que Dios Los bendiga” “Y que lleguen a viejitos tomados de la mano”.  I always offer to declare them married in their native language be it whichever it may be. The couple and their guests are grateful for this and love it!  For myself, it has certainly been fun learning Creole, French, Italian, Slovakian!
The day of the ceremony My day begins with a meditation in which the aim is to let go of tensions and thoughts, looking for an inner silence and inner peace. Once I am silent I include a prayer in which I visualize the couple I will marry and wish them well, I ask myself to give my best.
Two hours before the ceremony I get ready, drink a little coffee and head on out, with enough time to arrive 30 minutes before the ceremony.
As I drive, I let go of any physical tensions, listening to relaxing music. When I arrive to the venue, I take the time to collect and ground myself in the bathroom stall (about five minutes 😊) Afterwards, I make sure that l look decent and ready to go, then…I walk lightly, say hello to the coordinator, bride, DJ and photographer giving them each a cue sheet and my business card (except for the bride) Then, I take a seat: Another opportunity to relax, close my eyes and follow my breathing for a few minutes. I look at nature, keep looking, sense my feet on the ground and forget about my ego and how I may or may not look, what people may or may not think of me. I remember “you are here for them”. Surrendering to the moment is of utmost importance to me. Once the music begins, I listen to the music, feel my eyes, I accompany the groom, next to his side, offering him silent strength, silent company. As the bride walks, I smile at her and then we are ready to continue. I strive that every word has an intention, a feeling, a meaning. I am not reading out of a menu, I am reading words that capture their love and with each question, with each comma, with each exclamation there is a feeling. That feeling is felt by the couple, their guests, the photographer, everyone. We are all together in this, thanks to the wonder of love and to the joy of caring.
The welcome begins with a moment of inviting all to relax and to live in the moment. I ask everyone to sense their feet on the ground, their heads towards the sky, to silence our minds and open our hearts, to breathe. I do this with them, helping the couple relax and connect with their present,a present that they have been looking forward to. To help them cherish that moment is an honor and something I take to heart.

Bio: Maria Pereyra was born and raised in Lima, Peru. She is 1 of 11 siblings, her mom was a housewife and in her later years loved working at a children’s day care. Her father was a civil and consulting engineer, who wrote two novels when he retired. She went to elementary and high school in Peru, at The American School of Lima, moved to Florida in 1984 to study at Valencia Community College and has a major in Communications from The University of Central Florida. She worked in marketing, advertising, was her dad’s caregiver until his last breath, and found her path as a Life Cycle Celebrant and Ordained Minister in 2014.

She is a member and secretary of the Gurdjieff Foundation of Miami. Maria is known for officiating heartfelt wedding ceremonies that include a soft and spiritual tone. She is bicultural and bilingual in Spanish and absolutely loves being a Celebrant! She lives in South Florida with her Chilean Prince and three cats and hopes to have her very own wedding in the near future.   Email: mmpereyra@gmail.com  Website: www.siweddingceremonies.com   Telephone: 954 501 7874




Text Box:Tengo el privilegio de escribir unas palabras que ojalá podrían ser útiles para mis compañeros Celebrants. Deseo sinceramente que lo que comparta les pueda servir así como traerles una sonrisa al corazón. Por favor no duden en comunicarse! No estamos solos 😊
Acerca de la ceremonia
Hay tres datos que considero claves para una ceremonia de matrimonio: El tono que la pareja desea, los colores y si desean una ceremonia religiosa y/o espiritual. El tono es para las palabras que vaya a decir y como decirlas, los colores para asegurarme que la ropa que me ponga vaya con sus colores y los elementos religiosos/espirituales por si puedo ayudar con lecturas y tradiciones especiales.
Habiendo crecido en un ambiente católico, para mi es natural incluir lo religioso, ya sea Católico, Judío o cualquier otra religión que pida un momento sagrado. Aunque como Celebrants, nos dicen que nuestras ceremonias serán sobre todo sin denominación religiosa, en mi caso, he tenido la oportunidad de oficiar bodas civiles en las que la religión es incluida. Claro esta, manteniendo respeto y sin cruzar barreras.
Cuando se me pide ayudar con una ceremonia bilingüe, no suelo traducir palabra por palabra, mas bien, escribo en un estilo que fluya. Por ejemplo: sugiero que la pareja intercambie sus anillos en el idioma en que se comunican ellos. Agrego palabras cariñosas, tales como: “Señorita”, “Que Dios los bendiga”, “Y que lleguen a viejitos tomados de la mano.” Siempre les ofrezco declararlos en su idioma natal cual sea que fuera. Se ponen felices! Y para mí, es muy divertido aprender Creole, Frances, Italiano, Slovako!
El día de la ceremonia
Mi día empieza con una meditación en la que la meta es soltar tensiones y pensamientos, buscando un silencio interno y paz interior. Una vez que me encuentro con ese silencio, incluyo un rezo u oración en la que visualizo a la pareja que voy a casar, deseándoles bienestar. Me pido entregar lo mejor de mí.
Dos horas antes de la ceremonia, me alisto, tomo un poquito de café y salgo con suficiente tiempo para llegar 30 minutos antes de la ceremonia.
Mientras manejo, intento soltar tenciones físicas, escucho música relajadora. Cuando llego al local, me tomo unos cinco minutos en el baño para estar quieta y relajarme un poquito más, luego me aseguro de estar bien arreglada y empiezo a caminar suavemente, para saludar a la coordinadora, novia, DJ, fotógrafo y les entrego una hoja con los detalles de la ceremonia y mi tarjeta.
Luego tomo asiento: Otra oportunidad para relajarme, cerrar los ojos un instante y acercarme a mi respiración. Miro la naturaleza, siento mis pies sobre la tierra, y me olvido de mi ego, y de cómo me veo o no me veo, lo que las personas puedan pensar o no de mí. Me recuerdo: “Tu estas aquí para ellos.” Entregándome al momento es lo más importante para mí. Una vez que la música comienza, escucho, siento mi mirada, acompaño al novio, mientras espera, ofreciéndole fuerza en el silencio, compañía. Mientras la novia camina, le sonrió, y luego …estamos listos todos para continuar.
Me esmero en que cada palabra que diga tenga una intención, un sentimiento, un significado. No estoy leyendo un menú, estoy leyendo palabras que abrazan el amor, y con cada pregunta, cada coma, cada

exclamación, hay un sentimiento. Ese sentimiento es sentido por la pareja, los invitados, el fotógrafo, todos. Todos estamos juntos en esto, gracias a la entrega de amor y a la alegría de poder oficiar con cariño.
La bienvenida comienza con una invitación a relajarse para poder vivir bien ese momento. Una invitación a todos a sentir sus pies sobre la tierra, la cabeza hacia el cielo, a silenciar la mente y a abrir nuestros corazones.  A respirar. Esto lo hago con ellos, así ayudo a la pareja a relajarse y conectarse con el presente, un presente para el cual han estado esperando. Ayudarlos a atesorar ese momento es un honor y algo que agradezco de corazón.
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Biografía:  Maria Pereyra nació en Lima Perú. Es 1 de 11 hermanos. Su madre fue ama de casa hasta la tercera edad cuando cuido a niños en una guardería infantil, algo que le gustaba mucho. Su padre fue un ingeniero civil y consultor y escribió dos novelas al retirarse.  Maria estudio primaria y secundaria en The American School of Lima. Se mudó a Florida en 1984 para sus estudios universitarios en Valencia Community College y saco su bachiller en Comunicaciones de la University of Central Florida. Trabajo en mercadeo, publicidad, fue cuidadora de su padre hasta su último aliento, y encontró su camino como Life Cycle Celebrant y Ministra en el 2014. Es miembro y secretaria del Gurdjieff Foundation of Miami.
Maria es conocida por oficiar ceremonias de matrimonio que tocan el corazón de todos e incluyen un tono suave y espiritual. Es bicultural y bilingüe en Español y le encanta ser Celebrant! Vive en el sur de la Florida con su Príncipe Chileno y tres gatos. Espera poder tener su propia boda en un futuro cercano.
Email: mmpereyra@gmail.comWebsite: www.siweddingceremonies.comTelephone: 954 501 7874


As always, we aimed to fill every page of this e-newsletter with the knowledge that will make you an even happier Celebrant. We hope it helps you reflect upon and commit to the kind of action that gives your life meaning, beauty, service, joy, and fulfillment. We thank our contributing writers:
Charlotte Eulette, CF&I International Director
Elaine Voci, Life-Cycle Celebrant
Marilyn Dion, Life-Cycle Celebrant
Maria Pereyra, Life-Cycle Celebrant
Deb Goldmann, Life-Cycle Celebrant
Christopher Shelley, Life-Cycle Celebrant
Angelina Perez del Hierro, Life-Cycle Celebrant
Ellen Deschatress, Life-Cycle Celebrant
Elisa Chase, CF&I Education Director
Lindsay Attalia, Life-Cycle Celebrant
Linda Stuart, Life-Cycle Celebrant
Adam Phillips, Life-Cycle Celebrant

As 2017 year comes to a close, look into your lives and observe the rituals that will sustain and nurture you in the future. All the best and more!



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Celebrant Foundation & Institute 2017 Annual Alumni Appeal



Mission: The Celebrant Foundation & Institute's mission is to pioneer the widespread use of relevant, customized ceremony to honor the fullness of the human experience across the lifecycle.

Vision: The Celebrant Foundation & Institute seeks to increase opportunities to affirm and celebrate milestones and transitions for all people through the training, certification, and ongoing support of professional Life-cycle Celebrants® and by providing public education, outreach, and advocacy.

Dedication: The Celebrant Foundation & Institute is dedicated to teaching the principles, history, and practice of Celebrancy in a rigorous seven-month program which educates and certifies Life-Cycle Celebrants® in the art of ritual, ceremony, world and faith traditions, ceremonial writing, and public speaking and presentation. Celebrants are ceremonial facilitators and ritual creators, trained to officiate and guide individuals, couples, and families through key life events. The CF&I is a non-profit educational institution.


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Call to action - Celebrant Tribe!

As you know, Life-Cycle Celebrants® are the world's best rite-of-passage professionals. The press and many people consider our nonprofit, Celebrant Foundation & Institute's program of studies to be the equivalent of an ivy league education for ceremony and ritual. We at CF&I take pride in our academic program that has, for over 17 years, graduated 957 Celebrants in 16 countries and 4 continents worldwide. We got it going on!

This year our 2017 annual appeal for $5,500.00 US is earmarked to fund the completion of our new Celebrant Institute's academic platform. Our online school portal is the face and delivery system for all of our classes. Our new proprietary platform will take us into the future and serve our institute's and student's needs. By creating and hosting our own academic platform we will be able to offer new and existing courses with less overhead and with better student support. We are growing, and now have Celebrants alums in South Africa, Mexico and Asia, and we teach our course in English, French and soon - Spanish. As an international educational organization we become stronger and we can only do this with you - not without you. Your support makes us whole. Your support lifts us all and gives us collectively, the public respect and acknowledgment as professional, talented, and highly trained certified Life-Cycle Celebrants®.

Please help us raise $5,500.00.

CF&I is your alma mater and we want to serve our alumni even better and this is one of the best ways to do it.


Our Celebrants, friends and family combined donations allow us to develop ways to raise awareness for our Celebrants and the vital services you provide in your community and our society. Your CF&I continues to pioneer Celebrancy with you and for you. Let's do this together!

All (US) Contributions Are Tax-Deductible
Please reach into your ever-loving Celebrant hearts and make a donation now. Remember that CF&I is a 501-c3 non-profit educational organization and your donation goes directly to this project that will benefit Celebrants - past, present and future. A gift of any size makes a huge impact and is crucial to our survival. The Celebrant Foundation & Institute's founders, directors, faculty and volunteers are grateful for your ongoing, passionate support.
Please donate now.


LIVE, LOVE, GIVE
and you'll GET so much more!

Donate directly at:
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or call us at (973) 746-1792


Yours truly,

Charlotte Eulette, International Director
Celebrant Foundation & Institute



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Tuesday, December 5, 2017

The Heart Within the Holidays




"Learning to choose loving rituals that work in your family, that are meaningful, relaxed, realistic and reasonable, is as important and as individual as each of us."


Traditions and rituals enrich our lives. According to our iPhone friend Siri, “a ritual is a sequence of activities involving gestures, words, and objects, performed in a sequestered place and performed according to set sequence. A tradition is a belief or behavior passed down within a group or society with symbolic meaning or special significance with origins in the past.” 

The Holidays, especially Christmas, is a perfect example of rituals within traditions. There are family rituals that my mother performed to ensure our Christmas was special. She was a talented crafty lady who made many of our gifts. Baking began at least a month ahead of the 25th. There were so many cookies and squares and each of us had our favorites – like the decorated shortbreads or the cinnamon nut fingers. These delectables were kept in giant round tins that in days gone by had held reels of film. The homemade pies — scrumptious! Just mention butterscotch or lemon meringue on Christmas Eve and they would magically appear after you were stuffed with turkey. 

As a military family, we moved around a lot so home was wherever our PMQ (permanent married quarters) was! I admired the fact that mom kept in touch with several hundred people and took great pride in getting beautiful cards mailed with personal notes written in each. It became her custom to write one letter choc full of the family news over the past year to include in each card and my computer savvy Dad would copy it and print labels. We had a special Christmas drink my mother devised consisting of Welch’s grape juice and ginger ale. Countless hours were spent crocheting angels, bears and stars for the tree and stringing popcorn garland. Eating After Eights mints and snacking on Planter’s cashews while playing board games — pretty much a once a year specialty!

Mom’s passion for the festivities was passed down to me — some rituals I continued and some I created when I had children. Some of our best memories are tied to the repetition of these activities, like the setting up of the nativity scene or the assembly of the rotating brass angel candles year after year. Learning to bake the popular recipes for my family, sending cards, and heading to church Christmas Eve became cherished rituals. We looked forward to activities like traveling to my parents for the holidays, going to senior’s homes with my father and brother to play guitar and sing carols, and shopping for and making gifts for each other. But my favorite rituals always involved my children, presents they had wished for were only opened after their stockings and they ate their breakfast. Oh the anticipation — to relish their priceless delight on magical Christmas mornings.

These rituals, and so many more, have touched my heart, have formed fond memories for my daughters and continue to build our family connections. My three year old granddaughter is becoming familiar with some of the rituals our family still does, from decorating our homes to baking special treats. We are also endeavoring to instill in her the heart within the holidays by doing for others — gifting our time or our treasures in our community. Learning to choose loving rituals that work in your family, that are meaningful, relaxed, realistic and reasonable, is as important and as individual as each of us.

Marilyn Dion is a Life-Cycle Celebrant®, owner of Woven Words Ceremonies and the Canada East Alumni Mentor for the Celebrant Foundation & Institute.

The Celebrant Foundation & Institute (CF&I) is the preeminent online educational institute that teaches and certifies people as modern day ritual and ceremony professionals called Life-Cycle Celebrants®. Founded in 2001, the educational nonprofit organization headquartered in Montclair, NJ, is a member of the International Federation of Celebrants. To date, the CF&I has graduated nearly 1000 Life-Cycle Celebrants® who preside over 50,000 ceremonies each year throughout the world. To learn more about the CF&I, visit www.celebrantinstitute.org
Watch January 2017's Weddings with Zita (Zita Christian) with featured guest Elisa Chase, CF&I Academic Manager, discussing Ceremony, Rituals and the Celebrant Foundation & Institute.  

Please direct all request, comment or concerns about our CF&I Blog to our   Social Media Manager ~ Marcia Almeida, Master Life-Cycle Celebrant. at  celebrantsocialmedia@gmail.com    Or to the Celebrant Foundation & Institute’s director, Charlotte Eulette at: charlotteeulette@celebrantinstitute.org call us at (973)746-1792.  Visit us at http://www.celebrantinstitute.org/?p=business Non-profit Educational Organization

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Life-Cycle Ceremonies: A Handbook for Your Whole Life 


How do you commemorate momentous events? Memorialize people who have shaped you? Draw support from those you hold dear? This primer offers methods for honoring the special occasions in your life with humor and grace. Its ceremonies help ground each day in the wholeness that supports our entire lives. Each ceremony has been vetted by a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant® affiliated with the Celebrant Foundation and Institute, which offers training and support for celebrants worldwide. Visit us at www.celebrantInstitute.org.


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Resilience Art: A Grief Coloring Book Using Ritual and Music to Help You Grow is published by Mascot Books. During December, you can pre-order a copy and save 20%! The discount code is "coloring book"
To pre-order go here: https://mascotbooks.com/mascot-marketplace/buy-books/nonfiction/self-help-diy/resilience-art-grief-coloring-book-using-ritual-music-help-grow/.

"Dr. Elaine Voci's books aren't just books. They are emotional experiences and spiritual journeys. Resilience Art provides readers with Elaine's personal and professional life lessons combined with modern research to inspire and inform them that grief is highly individual, and that resilience is a part of their natural birthright. They are shown how to use the coloring book and incorporate intentional rituals and a selection of their favorite music to help them grow, and to integrate their loss. Locally, Elaine offers Resilience Art Workshops to accompany her unique book, adding value to and for readers beyond the boo"k.
- Erin Albert, MBA, PharmD, JD, PAHM is an author of 13 books, entrepreneur, pharmacist, podcaster, women’s advocate, and preceptor in the Indianapolis, IN area.


"Elaine’s eloquent writing brings her poignant experiences to celebrants and other readers together with meaningful storytelling, ritual, and solid research - all of which inspires us. As we move through and take part in this unique coloring book, a keen sense of awareness and gratitude for life resonates and stays with us. I especially love her beautiful way of encouraging those who grieve to gently trust their own process through the healing power of music and simple rituals. This vibrant and soul-exploring book, her latest work, is truly a gift to have, to hold and to share". - Charlotte Eulette is the International Director and co-founder of the pre-eminent Celebrant Foundation & Institute, a non-profit international educational organization that prepares people to become certified Life-Cycle Celebrants®.

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